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Who’s the Daddy? (The long road)

It’s four o’clock in the afternoon and I haven’t slept for two days.

I can hear our new baby screaming downstairs as her dad tries to comfort her. I close my eyes and sink deeper into the bath I’ve been looking forward to since giving birth 24 hours earlier.

When the screams get louder I run downstairs, naked and soaking wet, to check all is well. It isn’t. The (self-proclaimed) Northern Love Machine is pacing up and down with the tiny Frog on his shoulder, trying to calm her. He looks terrified. Continue reading



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The Gallery: Mother Love

Frog is two hours old and I can’t stop looking at her.

I can’t believe she came out of me. I can’t believe she is actually here.

From her bald head down to her wonky feet, she is the most perfect little thing I’ve ever seen. And she’s mine.



This week’s Gallery theme is Mother Love. Go to Sticky Fingers to see how other mums have interpreted the theme.



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Is she good?

When you have a baby, you are asked something time and time again. This is a question that follows you everywhere and is asked by every person you meet from now on. This question consists of three little words which fill me with dread: “Is she good?”

This is a question about the baby, you understand, not your mum or indeed any other female you may know. (It works for boys too, although in their case, substitute “she” for “he”. Obviously.)

Now, no one told me about this when I was pregnant. It appears this is a secret question that new mums have been asked for centuries. It is simply assumed you will be prepared and will give the correct answer.

So, imagine my confusion when I was asked this very same question just two days after giving birth…

Visitor who came to cuddle my newborn: “Is she good?”

Me (blank confusion all over my face): “Errr….yes?”

Visitor who came to cuddle my newborn: “Good. Yes. She looks like a good baby.”

Me (relief at getting the answer right): “Mmmm, yes, she is. Very good.”

Now, is it just me, or is this a very odd question to ask of a little baby? How can a baby be “good”? I mean, surely no new mum is going to say “No actually, my baby is bad. Very bad indeed”?

I just don’t get it.

I would understand if the question was “Is she a good sleeper?”, or “Is she a good feeder?”. But no, it is simply “is she good?”. If a baby struggles with wind, or colic or hasn’t got the hang of breastfeeding, does this mean they are “bad”? And, if so, does this in turn mean the mum is “bad”? The question implies that a baby who doesn’t cry or who sleeps through the night is well behaved, while one who does cry and who doesn’t sleep through the night is somehow naughty.

It’s a load of old rubbish, if you ask me.

Babies cry. Babies wake in the night. Babies get wind. That is what they do. And if your baby doesn’t do any of the above, then good for you. You got lucky. It doesn’t mean they are any more “good” than the next baby. It just means they are more convenient to look after.

So, I think we should replace the old secret question with a new one: “Is she convenient?”. And my answer to this one? No, she isn’t. Not at all.

My inconvenient baby


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Too cute

I was going to write all about the joys of being a pop star today.

I say going to because I’m not anymore. That post will have to wait until another day, because I just have to share these amazing photos that my photographer friend emailed me.

They are by a mum in Helsinki. While her baby girl sleeps, she creates these wierd and wonderful fantasy worlds around her, from whatever she can find lying around.

While these photos do make me go aaaaaaaah, I can’t help feeling maybe she has a bit too much time on her hands. Of course, this could just be the inner Competetive Mum in me. Outdone again. Damn.


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